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Fw: [AllahoAkbarGroup] In What State Will I Be ....

-------Original Message-------   From: Adil ibn Manzoor Khan Date: 12/17/11 23:10:26 Subject: [AllahoAkbarGroup] In What State Will I Be ....     In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate   "May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"   Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.      Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'Ala Rasulillah As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu     In What State Will I Be .... By Asma bint Shameem   Today I share some thoughts with you that run through my head This is what I so often think as I lay here on my bed   What would I be doing and in what state will I be.... That day when Malak ul-Maut will approach me?   For surely he will knock on my door, oh so suddenly My choice of place or time, it's not going to be   On the day that I meet him, what will I do? Theres no hiding that day, no one to run to   What will be my response to him? O What will I say? I didn't prepare for this....please come back another day?!   Please go back...go back. I'm just not ready yet! Just a few more minutes...seconds... Any time that I can get!   I would want to say goodbye but he wouldn't let me I would want another chance but that surely couldn't be   When he will come for me, I wonder, will I be in heedlessness Worrying little of the hereafter, in my state of carelessness   Or would I be the one who loves and lives upon the Sunnah? Would the last words on my tongue be la illaaha illAllaah?   Would my kafan be made of silk, being sent from Heaven above? Would it be so soft, so fragrant, wrapping my soul with love?   Or would it be so rough, so ugly, made of fire from Hell A wrath, a torment from my Lord, full of nasty smell?     And what would happen when they bury me, six feet underground When they lay me on my bed of dust, with no one else around   So scared and alone....the thought keeps haunting me In what state will I be....when the angels will question me?   Will I be able to answer them....the questions they will ask It seems so easy now....but what a lofty task!   Will I be scared to see them, will they be of horror to me? Will I be able to bear them, when they ist in front of me?   Will I be able to give them those answers so easily? Or will I stumble and stagger....not knowing, confusedly?   Will I stutter and stammer just like a hypocrite would? Or would I be able to respond to them just as a Muslim should?   Will my grave be a piece of Jannah, green and open wide... With Mercy from my Lord so Kind, my good deeds on my side?   Will I rest in my grave ever so peacefully? Or will my grave be a wretched place of torture for me?   I pray my grave is not a bed...of torment and agony I hope so earnestly that my Rabb will forgive me   And when everyone will be raised with the rest of humanity In what state will I be.....when my Lord will resurrect me?   Will I be pleased to see my Rabb? Will I be eager to greet Him? But more importantly will HE be pleased with me, the Day I meet Him?   Will my face be black with sin that day or will it be shining white? Will my scale of deeds weigh heavy for me....would it be feather light?   O where will I run then ...where will I hide? This is what scares me! In what state will I be....when the book of deeds is handed to me?   Will it be given in my left hand or I will hold it in my right? Will I be guided firm on the Siraat; my Imaan so big, so bright?   Will I be among the wretched or will Allaah be pleased with me? In what state will I be...when I stand in front of the Almighty?   I shudder and I tremble when I think of that Great Day When I ask myself..."Am I ready to meet my Lord today?"   I cry as I lay here....thinking. I shed my wretched tears Please forgive me O Allaah, how I wasted all those years   I sinned all my life Yaa Maalik, Oh how I forsook you Unless you forgive me O Allah, how can I meet you?!   My sins are so heavy Yaa Rabb, I can hardly bear the weight But I'm hoping for your Mercy, Allaah, don't leave me to my fate   For how long will I live? I don't know when I'll die But like the prophet said I should expect it so close by   Let me stop this way of life; let me snap out of this trance Let me turn my life around now that I have this perfect chance   Because today I am closer to my Lord than I was yesterday Did it ever occur to me that today could be my last day? Read More 3 Questions in the Grave http://islamqa.com/en/ref/10403/     Permission is granted to circulate among private individuals and groups, to post on Internet sites and to publish in full text and subject title in not-for-profit publications.   http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/ . __,_._,___

Fw: 03 Wuzu Ke Sunatain

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Fw: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Welcoming the Blessed Month of Rabi al-Noor Sharif!!

-------Original Message-------   From: Irfan Edhi Date: 26-01-2012 1:17:49 AM Subject: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Welcoming the Blessed Month of Rabi al-Noor Sharif!!     Blessed be the moment of Prophet's birth; When unsurpassed glory spread over the earth!! All praise is to Allah, the Lord of The Creation, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, Owner of the Day of Recompense, Who blessed us with being the Ummah of His Beloved Rasool SallAllaho Alaihi WA Sallam, Who sanctified our hearts with the Love and Affection towards His Beloved Rasool SallAllahu Alaihi WA Sallam, Who blessed us the with the most precious treasure of Iman (Faith). Countless Salutations, Peace and Blessings be upon the Cream of the Creation... Mercy for all Worlds... Seal of the Prophets Sayyiduna WA Mawlana MuHammadur Rasoolullah Sallallaho Alaihi WA Sallam, His Blessed Parents, His entire Family, His Progeny, His Companions and His Followers!! AlHamduLILLAH Thumma AlHamduLILLAH!! We are again blessed with the arrival and celebration of this Blessed Month of Rabi al-Noor. May ALLAH SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala bless us all with the blessings of this holy month and give us an opportunity to explore and enjoy the blessings of this holy month in Madina al-Munawwarah, the city of HIS Habeeb al-Kareem Alaihi afDalus Salati WA al-Tasleem... Aameen!! Dear Friends! After promising ourselves to quit the injurious company of the deviants on the 93rd Urs-e-Razawi, now it's time to make ourselves an example of the blessed teachings of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam! Today, it is a tragedy that we do not derive lessons and benefits from the teachings of Sayyiduna Rasoolullah SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam as his faithful followers ought to do. The real and true method of celebrating the birth of the Beloved Habeeb SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam is by intensely concentrating on his actions and trying to benefit as much as possible from his words. We should also try to imitate the Noble Companions Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhum Ajma'een — the model disciples and followers, in our homes and outside, in businesses and private and social gatherings. We should celebrate the birth of Sayyiduna Rasoolullah SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam with the same glow and serene devotion as that of the Companions of the Holy Prophet Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhum Ajma'een and the early Muslims. We profess love for Sayyiduna Rasoolullah SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam and express it by celebrating his birthday. However, our lives and outlook should bear remembrance in the true sense of the word. Now that we have the tremendous advantage of acquiring and spreading knowledge, there is no excuse on our part for not following the life and teachings of the Holy Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi WA Aalihi WA Sallam to reinforce and fasten our covenant with Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala. Let us make ourselves ready to welcome the Blessed Month of Rabi' al-Awwal Sharif with some special gifts and pleasant changes in ourselves. There are plenty of things we can do, for e.g. 1. We can try to recite the Holy Quran al-Kareem at least once in a day. Let it be One Ayah, One Ruku', One Chapter or as much as we can. 2. We must try our level best to offer all five (5) obligatory prayers at their particular timings and not to leave Jama'ah (Congregation), especially the FAJR Prayer. 3. Try observing a voluntary (nafl) fast on Monday for thankfulness because the Holy Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi WA Sallam himself fasted on this day. 4. My brothers who shave the blessed Sunnah of Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Him) I.e. The beard, can put their effort to beautify their faces with the beard. Sayyiduna Ibn 'Umar Radi ALLAHu Ta'ala Anhu reported that the Messenger of Allah has said, "Do the opposite of what the polytheists do; let the beard grow long and clip the mustache." A version has, "trim the mustache down and leave the beard." 5. My sisters who do not observe a proper Veil (Hijab) can protect themselves by observing the proper veil (Hijab), as it's also necessary for a Muslim woman. In Surah 33, Verse 59, Almighty Allah says: "O Prophet! Enjoin upon your wives, your daughters and women believers to draw their clothes around them. That is more proper, so that they may be recognized and not be molested." A newly converted Muslim woman when observed Hijab for the first time, said, "It feels more protected than having huge security of armed forces" – WA alHamduLILLAH 6. Let us delete all movies and songs saved in our PCs, laptops, iPods, cell phones or any other device and move the CDs, DVDs and cassettes to the trash bin. It is stated in Bayhaqi's Shu'ab al-Iman and Kanz al-'Ummal that Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Him) said, "Songs (Music) cultivate Nifaq (evil) in the minds similar to water growing the crop" 7. We can make an attempt to feed the poor and destitute according to our own ability. 8. We can try making arrangements for clothes or other requirements of someone in need or of a widow. 9. We can make an effort and make arrangements for the fees and books of a poor or orphan child. 10. Try making arrangements for the medicines of a needy patient or at least helping his family with clothing and other requirements. 11. If a person in need has taken loan from us, we should either pardon the entire loan or a part of it based on our own ability, just for the sake of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala and the blessed birth of the Holy Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Also, the person can be given some more time to return the loan. 12. Try meeting relatives, friends and neighbours and presenting them with authentic books on the biography of the Holy Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam, admonishing them to be steadfast on the teachings of Islam and making them pay attention towards Salah, Sawm and other Islamic duties. 13. Those having an habit or I must say disease of swearing and using abusive slang language in their conversations must leave this act as it is detested by Almighty Allah and is taken as an unethical act even by the general public. 14. Another Beautiful Sunnah Mubarak of our Beloved Prophet Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Him is to wear the blessed Turban. Wearing a turban is the tradition of Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam), especially during the prayers. The prayer that is performed wearing a turban carries more reward and according to another narration, the prayer performed wearing a turban carries 70 times reward than that of without the Turban. 15. Recite as much as Durood Sharif as we can. Apart from the virtues and blessings of reciting Durood Sharif described in Ahadith, this will also help us avoid unnecessary and unwanted talks and gossips and reward for avoiding useless conversation will be achieved as a bonus in sha Allah!! 16. We must try and make a paramount effort towards lighting up our homes and surrounding area and making the pathways clean. 17. We must keep our parents pleased and contented with ourselves at the extreme. We have to make sure that we don't give them a single chance to complain to any of our action that can possibly hurt them. 18. We must try transforming our internal conflicts into love and making a covenant to live and work together and that none amongst us will ever create conflicts. 19. We have to respect our elders especially our parents, grandparents and teachers. Also, we should be kind, affectionate and loving towards our younger and give them sweets, toffees and other small gifts that please them. 20. Last but not the least, we must read and share the narrations of celebrating the blessed Birth of the Beloved Prophet Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Him from the authentic books of our prominent Ahl as-Sunnah Scholars in sha ALLAH!! To conclude, If we ascetically act upon all the above said advices or even few of them, I am pretty sure that we would become eligible to be called a practical and true Muslim. May Allah give us the tawfeeq, increase our strength and keep us firm upon whatever good we intend to do. Let us offer such special gifts in the August Court of the Master of the Mankind, King of the Creation of Allah Almighty, Our Master, Our Beloved Prophet MuHammad Sallallaho Alaihi wa Sallam on his Birthday. May ALLAH Azza wa Jall and His Beloved Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Him) accept our humble presents… Aameen!! JazakALLAHu Khariah aHsan al-Jaza fid Daarain in anticipation and the Blessed Month of Rabi' al-Noor Mubarak to everyone once again!! ——— A Humble Request by: Noori al-Qadiri & Najibullah Qadiri Servants of Seekers of the Sacred Knowledge ..:: Follow us on ::..   . __,_._,___

Fw: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Preparing for Rabi' al-Awwal Sharif | An Advice by Shaykh Habib Umar bin Hafiz [Tarim, Yemen]

-------Original Message-------   From: Irfan Edhi Date: 24-01-2012 6:49:20 PM Subject: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Preparing for Rabi' al-Awwal Sharif | An Advice by Shaykh Habib Umar bin Hafiz [Tarim, Yemen]     Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala sent his final and beloved Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi WA Sallam to this world in the blessed month of Rabi' al-Awwal. The arrival of the Beloved Messenger SallAllaho Alaihi WA Sallam to this world is the greatest gift from the gifts of Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala. The Noble Qur'an, in several places, teaches us to mention the gifts of Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala immensely and that we should express joy and happiness due to them and we should thank Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala for the gifts bestowed upon us. Thus, on the occasion of the blessed month of Rabi' al-Awwal, Eid Milad of the Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi WA Sallam is celebrated throughout the Islamic World. Let us also celebrate the birth of the Beloved Master SallAllaho Alaihi WA Sallam and thus express joy and happiness for this great bounty that Allah SubHanuhu WA Ta'ala has bestowed upon us.   Following are some advices regarding preparations for Rabi' al-Awwal Sharif from Shaykh Habib Umar bin Muhammad bin Salem Bin Hafiz (may Allah preserve him) that he delivered while answering to the following questions: Is any special formula of prayer upon the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) that we should read during Rabi` al-Awwal? He said that there is no doubt that this is the month of bestowing prayers upon the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace). Many of the pious of the Ummah are united with the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) in this month. Any formula that we read is beneficial. You benefit according to the degree to which your heart is filled with the intention of obeying the command (to bestow prayers upon him) and love, longing and veneration for him. Read whatever formula you know and while doing so ask Allah to relieve the suffering of the Muslims. Habib `Ali bin Salim al-Ada`j bin Shaykh Abu Bakr bin Salim saw the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) at the blessed shubbak (the grille in front of his grave) and asked him to teach him a formula to read. He told him to read: اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ على سَيِّدِنا مُحَمَّدٍ حَبِيبِ الرَّحْمَنْ عَدَدَ ما يَكوُن و ما قَدْ كَانْ "O Allah, bestow Your prayers upon our Master Muhammad, The Beloved of the Most Compassionate to the number of things that will be and that were." What is the most beautiful gift that someone can give to the Messenger of Allah in the month of Rabi` al-Awwal? In reality we are unable to benefit him in any way but what pleases him is for us to understand his speech and his teachings and through that to attain high stations. He is thus content with that which benefits us. One of the greatest of those things (as we understand from the Book and the Sunnah) is for us to be a means of guidance for someone. That person may be a non-Muslim who accepts Islam or a disobedient or heedless Muslim who repents and becomes upright. Another thing is giving life to his Sunnah and establishing it. If we establish the Sunnah in our homes and teach it to our children this makes him happy because it us that benefit from this. He said in the hadith: "Whoever brings life to my Sunnah during the time of corruption of my Ummah will have the reward of a martyr" (or in one narration "one hundred martyrs"). Another thing is to do good to the creation in general, to the believers specifically, and the elite of the believers more specifically. A further thing is to strengthen our love for the believers, for the people of the Prophetic Household and for the Companions. Finally, we should make big intentions in Rabi' al-Awwal, such as gathering together with our brothers and attending or arranging lessons or courses. How can we inspire people to long for the Messenger of Allah? By mentioning his virtues, qualities and his life. By embodying his character and his dealing. By deepening our love, longing and veneration for him. If such a person speaks he will have such an effect on those listening such that they begin to long for the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace). ——— Translated by: Ustadh Amin Buxton At Dar al-Mustafa on 27th Safar 1433 / 21st January 2012 ..:: Follow us on ::..   . __,_._,___

Fw: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Stealing in Prayer

-------Original Message-------   From: Adil ibn Manzoor Khan Date: 24-01-2012 12:36:42 AM Subject: [AllahoAkbarGroup] Stealing in Prayer                                             In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate   "May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"   Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.      Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'Ala Rasulillah As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu       "Stealing in Prayer"   Lack of composure in Prayer Taken from  Prohibitions that are taken too lightly - English Translation Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid     One of the worst forms of theft or cheating is cheating in prayer. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The worst type of thief is the one who steals from his prayer." The people asked, "O Messenger of Allaah, how can a person steal from his prayer?" He said: "By not doing rukoo' and sujood properly." (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 5/310; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 997).   This lack of composure and failure to pause in rukoo and sujood and to stand up straight after rukoo or sit up properly between sujoods may be observed in many of those who pray, and hardly any mosque is free of examples of people who do not have the proper composure in prayer. Correct composure is one of the pillars of prayer, without which prayer is invalid.   This is a serious matter. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "A mans prayer is not good enough until his back is straight in rukoo and sujood." (Reported by Abu Dawud, 1/533; see also Saheeh al-Jaami', 7224).     Abu Abdullaah al-Ashari reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) led his Companions in prayer, then he sat with a group of them. A man came in and started to pray, but made his movements rapid like a chicken pecking the ground.   The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Do you see this? Whoever dies having done this has died outside of the community of Muhammad, and his prayer is like a crow pecking blood. The person who bows then pecks in his sujood is like a hungry man who eats no more than one or two dates - what good will that do him?" (Reported by Ibn Khuzaymah in his Saheeh 1/332; see also al-Albaani, Sifat Salaat al-Nabi (The Prophet's Prayer described), 131).   Zayd ibn Wahb said: "Hudhayfah saw a man who was not performing rukoo and sujood properly. He said: You have not prayed, and if you were to die, you would die on a way other than that revealed by Allaah to Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).'" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, see al-Fath, 2/274).   Once a person is aware of this ruling, if he fails to perform prayer with the proper composure, he should repeat it and repent to Allaah for what is past; he does not need to repeat all of his previous prayers, as is indicated by the hadeeth "Repeat your prayer, for you have not prayed."      Permission is granted to circulate among private individuals and groups, to post on Internet sites and to publish in full text and subject title in not-for-profit publications.     http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/   . __,_._,___

Fw: [AllahoAkbarGroup] The Marriage Process in Islam

-------Original Message-------   From: Adil ibn Manzoor Khan Date: 21-01-2012 11:54:29 PM Subject: [AllahoAkbarGroup] The Marriage Process in Islam     In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate   "May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"   Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.      Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'Ala Rasulillah As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu   The Marriage Process in Islam By Shaad Ahmed Before Marrying Selecting a Spouse The first thing we should look for when marrying is how committed the person is to Islam. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, beauty, nobility, or religiousness (adherence to Islam), but choose a religious woman and you will prosper." (Muslim) And he said, "A woman is married for four things, I.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. You should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."(Bukhari) And he said, "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." (Muslim) The same holds true when looking for a husband, as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks to marry your daughter, comply with his request. If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on earth." (Tirmidhi) Of course, both parties have to agree to marry one another and they can not be forced to marry one another. The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "A woman whom has been previously married has more right concerning herself than her guardian, and a virgins consent must be asked about herself…" (Bukhari and Muslim) Rules of Al-Khutbah (Request to marry a woman and the acceptance of the proposal) The man has permission to see her face before agreeing to marry as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Go and look at her (the woman you are considering marrying) because this will help your time together to be strengthened." (Ahmad) After a man and woman have agreed to marry, they have to remember that the man is still not her mahram (men prohibited to her, including her father, brothers, sons, maternal and paternal uncles, and nephews). This means they can not still deal with one another as partners in any way (such as shaking hands, gazing at one another, being alone together, going out together, etc.), or go out with one another as we see people in the west doing. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him not have a private audience with a woman without her mahram." (Ahmad) The Wedding Ceremony (Nikaah) Components 1 – Consent: Aishah (R) asked Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) if womem must be asked for their permission of marriage. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) replied, "Yes." She said, The virgin is asked for her permission but she gets shy.  Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Her silence is her permission." (Bukhari and Muslim) 2 – The Wallee (Woman's Guardian): Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "There is no nikaah except with a wallee." (Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi) 3 – Two Witnesses: Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "There is no marriage except with a wallee and trustworthy witnesses." (Sahih - Bayhaqee) Also, "There is no marriage except with a wallee and two witnesses." (Sahih Al-Jaami') 4 – The Mahr (Dowry): Allah says (what means): "And give to the women their dowry with a good heart, but if they out of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it without fear of any harm." (Al-Nisa 4:4) The mahr can be of any amount, Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Look for one even if it was an iron ring." (Bukhari and Muslim) The woman is not obliged to give the man anything at the time of the wedding, as is done in some cultures. Acts to be Avoided We should be careful to not act as the disbelievers do regarding their mixing of men and women, wearing tuxedos and white wedding gowns, exchanging rings, kissing in public, etc. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Whoever resembles a people is one of them." (Abu Dawood) After the Wedding Supporting Ones Wife The man is responsible for providing for his wife, as Allah says (what means), "Let the wealthy man spend according to his means; and let the man whose provisions are restricted spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah does not burden a soul beyond what He has given it, and Allah will grant ease after a hardship." (Al-Talaq 65:7) Islam even gives women the right to take secretly money from their husbands if the husbands are not providing for them. Hind, the wife of Abu Sufyan, came to Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) and said, "O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyan is a stingy man and does not give me and my children enough provisions except when I take something from him with out his knowledge." Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Take what is reasonably sufficient for you and your children." (Bukhari and Muslim) Educating Ones Family Since the man has put in the position of providing for his family, he must also provide them with the proper Islamic education to keep them from the hellfire. Allah says (what means), "O you who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones (that were worshipped), over it are appointed angels stern and severe, who disobey not the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded." (Al-Tahrim 66:6) Both the husband and wife should make sure their home is a place where Allah is remembered and His Commandments are reflected and acted upon. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "The similitude of a home in which Allah is remembered and a home in which He is not is like the living and the dead." (Muslim) The Wife Obeying Her Husband A woman must obey her husband as long as he does not tell her to perform any haraam (unlawful) acts. Allah says (what means), "…the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in absence what Allah would have then guard." (Al-Nisa 4:34) Kind Treatment To Ones Wife Just because Allah has given men a position of authority does not give them the right to abuse it. They have to treat their wives in the best manner. Allah says (what means), "Live with them honorably." (Al-Nisa 4:19) Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "The believer with the most complete faith is the one with the best character, and the best of them are those whom treat their women the best." (Tirmidhi) We can see from the seerah (biography) of Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) that he would help his wives with housework and would engage in games with them as well. Source : http://www.shawuniversitymosque.org/matri/view_article.php?article_id=7     Permission is granted to circulate among private individuals and groups, to post on Internet sites and to publish in full text and subject title in not-for-profit publications.     http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/   . __,_._,___